the issue with...
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shifty_gardener...Sara Bareilles is that her songs are actually too catchy and don't leave one's head for a day or two after listening.
...manga is that, as far as I can tell*, if women enjoy sex or have any sort of libido, there's something wrong with them; men, on the other hand, are expected to think about sex constantly and also be as emotionless as possible. This means that a romance* will 1. take forever and feature an extremely clueless girl, because if she knew what she wanted and went after it, she wouldn't be "good" (i.e. Skip Beat, Oresama Teacher, etc), 2. develop quickly/at a normal pace and look like rape, emotional abuse or both (i.e. Black Bird, every yaoi manga ever made, etc) or 3. will completely ignore sexual attraction altogether and mostly just acknowledges that the main characters coexist in the same planet/country/city/vicinity in the future (i.e. Card Captor Sakura, Fruits Basket, most jdrama, etc). There's nothing particularly wrong with (1), but (2) and (3) can leave some pretty inauspicious standards in a young girl's head.^
Also, if a mangaka tries to establish/reassert who the love interest in a (1), it will look like sexual assault. The woman is clueless because she's not allowed to know what she wants, and the male character isn't allowed to reach out emotionally, so he does it the only way how, which is physically. Then, when the heroine asks what that was about, the hero, who isn't supposed to be emotional and yet loves the heroine and thus wants to protect her from the darkness of desire, lies to or yells at the heroine for asking, resulting in the heroine's confusion and continued obliviousness and also makes the hero look manipulative and horrible.
* This refers to shoujo manga - idk if the same expectations are put on adult women. I can assume they apply to adult men because this holds true for yaoi manga, except one of the men in the relationship is expected to take on the women's role and attitudes
^ As someone that read a lot of (3) as a kid, I can attest to this.
...manga is that, as far as I can tell*, if women enjoy sex or have any sort of libido, there's something wrong with them; men, on the other hand, are expected to think about sex constantly and also be as emotionless as possible. This means that a romance* will 1. take forever and feature an extremely clueless girl, because if she knew what she wanted and went after it, she wouldn't be "good" (i.e. Skip Beat, Oresama Teacher, etc), 2. develop quickly/at a normal pace and look like rape, emotional abuse or both (i.e. Black Bird, every yaoi manga ever made, etc) or 3. will completely ignore sexual attraction altogether and mostly just acknowledges that the main characters coexist in the same planet/country/city/vicinity in the future (i.e. Card Captor Sakura, Fruits Basket, most jdrama, etc). There's nothing particularly wrong with (1), but (2) and (3) can leave some pretty inauspicious standards in a young girl's head.^
Also, if a mangaka tries to establish/reassert who the love interest in a (1), it will look like sexual assault. The woman is clueless because she's not allowed to know what she wants, and the male character isn't allowed to reach out emotionally, so he does it the only way how, which is physically. Then, when the heroine asks what that was about, the hero, who isn't supposed to be emotional and yet loves the heroine and thus wants to protect her from the darkness of desire, lies to or yells at the heroine for asking, resulting in the heroine's confusion and continued obliviousness and also makes the hero look manipulative and horrible.
* This refers to shoujo manga - idk if the same expectations are put on adult women. I can assume they apply to adult men because this holds true for yaoi manga, except one of the men in the relationship is expected to take on the women's role and attitudes
^ As someone that read a lot of (3) as a kid, I can attest to this.
